My friends and I used to have this saying “take it to the river”. We all used lived to live together in an apartment on 11th Street. Whenever something went wrong or broke (lamps, typewriters, coffee mugs) we’d get drunk on the Hudson and end up throwing it all in the water. Sometimes even if our things weren’t broken; like a shirt we didn’t like anymore or a book that wasn’t very good; “take it to the river” we would all say. And somewhere along our years of friendships we started applying that little phrase to life itself. Your girlfriend dumped you? Take it to the river. Job not working out? Take it to the river. Feeling stuck, useless or broken? Take it to the fucking river.
The expression ‘whatever doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger’ is complete bullshit. There are things in our past that have scarred us forever. Unless we make positive steps to overcome our failures, we’re damaged goods. But it’s no problem. One of our mind’s greatest tricks is the ability to forget. We forget that our hearts were broken and we love again. We forget the people who left us and open up to the possibility of rejection all over again. If we obsess over the hard times in our lives, we may never be brave enough to fly again.
We have goals in life. We have things we’d like to accomplish. But unless we allow our selves to rest and enjoy peace, we will burn out before our masterpiece is set free into the world.
Don’t be pressured by the expectations of others. Just because others in your field are killing themselves doesn’t mean you need a stress-related disease as well. We must never be lazy. But more importantly, we must never compromise our voice for the expectations of others.
Wouldn’t it be nice to be a positive force in someone’s life? Wouldn’t it be exquisite to no longer be preoccupied with worries and self-centered stress? Wouldn’t it be beautiful to put our concerns aside and focus for a moment on making someone smile? I think that could change the world. I really do.
As you walk through the world you may hear your business associates spewing anxiety and practically shouting at you about tasks they call “urgent”. Your loved ones may be in mental paralyses tangled in thoughts and worries and begging you to take action, or better yet, join in on the emotional anguish. These situations can latch onto your soul and cripple not only your mind but also your physical health and life expectancy. Thankfully, you are a Superhero and can walk through war and riots with transforming peace in your heart. Urgency and sorrow will be overshadowed by your unfaltering strength and ability to overcome such manmade anguish that so many fall victim to. Never run from other people’s problems. Only look them in the eye until your Superpowers transform those around you. Your inner peace can change the winter into spring; sprouting tulips from snow as happy geese swim in newly thawed ponds.
You can build a lifestyle that you love one small change at a time. Focus on one change and ignore everything else. Allow yourself to make mistakes in other areas while you focus on the one change. When the change is made it will become automatic and focus can be divided as necessary once again.
If you need no recognition and no serious bank account, you can do whatever you love to do, every day for the rest of your life. No strings attached. I am amazed at how little we actually need in this world to live a happy and meaningful life. I am also amazed at how the things we own can actually inhibit and restrict us from feeling happy and doing meaningful things.
Concentrate on what you want. Don’t let the neighbors or your peers swade you from that beautiful tunnel vision. People will try and talk you out of your dreams for your entire life. It’s the madmen who are crazy enough to never let go that succeed. You’ve got to be a little crazy to do something brilliant.
Accomplishments are fleeting. Your life will be over in the blink of an eye. If there is a heaven, take some beautiful moments with you to remember there. Don’t sit up there thinking “I sure worked my way up the corporate ladder.” Smile and laugh remembering your loved ones and the time you swam in the ocean and the broken umbrella kiss in the rain and the time you taught your child how to juggle. And if there is a heaven, smile without regrets that your life was a piece of art and you treated it as such. May you love in every moment and enjoy the temporary beauty of life.
People run on hamster wheels purchasing and accumulating; believing they need to work 40 hours a week in order to buy things that cripple their spirits. When the money comes they spend it. When they do this, they strengthen the bond between themselves and their jobs. When we live week to week, paycheck to paycheck, we seal our own fate as being forever dependent on a job. The only way out of this cycle is to take a stand against materialism and strive towards a completely independent and minimalist life-style. It’s only then that we’ll have time for the stars and fresh air again.
Use the words “no thank you” whenever possible and do everything in your power to protect your FLOW. Make no exceptions.
Has anyone taken into account the long-term effects of forcing ourselves to remain physically inactive? Is the internet so important that we should dedicate our lives to it? Standing desks and office treadmills are an insult. Our bodies still know they’re on nothing but a hamster wheel. The orca’s fin collapses while held in captivity and the human soul is no different.
When the days bleed into one another until months speed by leaving you with a feeling like a missed road sign, when in the back of your mind you’re wondering if you missed your exit because nothing quite looks right around here, when you wake up in the morning knowing that you’ll have to put off your dreams for another day, it’s time to stop everything. Take the day off, play a record and get your bearings.